Which letter is which?
For income tax you receive three kinds of letters that look alike: an aangiftebrief (you must file a return), a voorlopige aanslag (an estimate, usually with monthly instalments) and a definitieve aanslag (the final settlement after your return). For VAT you receive a naheffingsaanslag when a return or a payment is missing.
The top of the letter says which kind of assessment it is and which year or period it covers. Together those two tell you what to do — and whether it is an estimate you can still have adjusted, or the final settlement.